Little reminder to create the perfect secular ceremony!

There is no predefined framework: you have the freedom to do what ever you want! It’s great but it can also be scary… especially if you’ve never been to a secular ceremony!

The entrance:

The entry of the bride and groom is a long-awaited moment!

If there is a moment during your wedding when you will feel your wings sprouting, this is it! Therefore, you will have to think about the little effect you want to create… humorous, solemn…

The choice of your music is therefore essential but not mandatory. Don’t forget my advices during our appointment 😉 )
No matter what music you decide on, it must be like you. If your secret pleasure is to make your entrance by dancing, go for it!
You can even imagine a little choreography with your witnesses and bridesmaids…

Enjoy yourself!

Introductory :

To begin this beautiful ceremony I would thank your guests and explain to them why you have chosen to organize a secular ceremony and what it consists of. It may sound silly, but keep in mind that most of your guests have never been to this kind of ceremony before and therefore, don’t know what to expect.

Then we slide gently to the beginning of your story.

This goes without saying but I prefer to remind you: the idea is not to give me a text to read. Of course you can give me clues, but the goal is to write and describe your story.

Here are some ideas that I add in the writing of the ceremony:

Let me introduce myself.
I’m describing my emotions at this moment
I give my definition of love and marriage
Then slowly … the story of the bride and groom: the meeting? Their first kiss? Their beautiful moments? What makes them unique as a couple? The word that best defines them? What makes them one? What they’ll be like in 10, 20, 30 years? etc.

The speakers:

Speeches give so much charm to a ceremony… So don’t hesitate to ask your loved ones if they wish to participate. And for the shy ones, don’t worry because there are a thousand ways to participate! Here are some of my tips … :

For the writers : ask them to compose their own speech. It’s always a nice surprise!

For the speakers: you can ask them to read texts that you have selected. It can be a part of a book, a poem or why not, a part of the first missive you sent to your lover!

For artists: call on their talent! Ask them to sing, to play a piece of guitar, flute or even to perform two or three dance steps… Again, you can imagine everything!

For the shy ones: offer them to participate through small symbolic actions such as bringing the wedding rings or coming to bring a small gift to the bride and groom.

What is important: when preparing the ceremony, your job will be to coordinate the different moments, alternating readings, musical passages… everything that will contribute, in short, to give rhythm to the ceremony. You can also involve the guests by suggesting a song, you too can intervene during the ceremony… and if you really feel lost, take inspiration from the religious sequence of a wedding ceremony that alternates speaking, meditation and sharing time.

Exchanges of vows and declaration of love … yes yes yes remember I told you about it during our meeting 😉

Orchestrated by the officiant, the exchange of vows and rings is certainly the most touching moment of the ceremony. Through your beautiful statement, you will unite with the person you love… The only advice I can give you is not to get too carried away. The emotion of the day will do most of the work and the little quacks (and other mumblings) will make this moment more than perfect…

Finally, if you wish, we can end with a nice ritual that will seal your love. There are many such rituals, such as the ribbon ceremony or the mingled sand, but you can imagine it yourself.